Message in a jar is a perfect gift idea! 

As soon as my partner and I found out he would be going on his first overseas deployment, I started thinking about things I could do/make to ensure he knew how much I loved and would miss him while he was away. Not only was I determined to make sure that he was left in no doubt about how amazing I think he is, I also wanted to make things that he could revisit while he was away and that would lift his spirits during the times when being far from home was particularly difficult. For these reasons, a message jar was the perfect idea! Here’s how I did it.

I then compiled a variety of messages made up of quotes about love, life, courage and family. It was important that the quotes were applicable to us, our relationship and to his life so I began compiling them a few months before he was due to leave so it wasn't a rushed process. For the other messages, I began each with 'I love...' and listed all the different things I love about my partner. Some were sweet, some deep, some funny and even a few cheeky ones were in there. I ended up with a 50/50 mix of quotes and 'I love...' messages but you could do any combination you choose.

I then transcribed each message onto a piece of silver paper with a thick black pen. You could type the messages if you wanted to but I think they look so much nicer hand written and it adds to the effect. Having said that, it was very time consuming and I had to write them about fifty at a time because the repetition made my hand hurt so much.

After writing each message, I cut it out and set it aside. Once I had written and cut out all the messages, I did a final proof read and count to ensure I hadn’t made any errors or missed any out (I recommend this step as I had done exactly that and was one short at the end).

Once I was happy with the proof reading and total count, I folded each message up (with the writing on the inside) by folding the paper in half and then half again. I did this for every message, regardless of size/length.

I purchased a large glass jar with airtight seal lid and decorated with ribbon at the neck. I used red and black ribbon to maintain as ‘manly’ a look as possible. I then placed all of the folded messages inside the jar, mixing them up in the process. I then replaced the jar lid to ensure no messages were lost.

Before he left, I gave my partner the jar and gave him instructions verbally to open a message each day he was away, but you could write a small note and hang it off the ribbon on the neck of the jar if you choose.

When I first decided to undertake this process I wasn’t sure how well it would be received given many men don’t often feel the need to highlight their feelings, but when I gave it to my partner it made all of the work involved (and RSI of the hand) worth it! He absolutely loved it! His reaction completely exceeded my expectations. He was so touched and it continued to be a talking point between us for the duration of his trip (he ended up reading me the messages he had opened each time we Skyped). He even brought the jar home with him, complete with every message, to keep and reread later, proudly displaying it on our lounge room bookshelf. For these reasons, this is one of, if not the BEST project I have ever done!

Guest Post by Natalie.   Thank you for the idea and for sharing -  Such a beautiful way to show love!  Just gorgeous xx 

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+1 # Jen 2014-03-25 11:38
Loved this - so easy to forget old fashioned romance, and yet in a world full of fast moving technology, I think its even more special than it used to be.
Thanks for sharing,
0 # Mums Take Five 2014-03-25 20:26
Quoting Jen:
Loved this - so easy to forget old fashioned romance, and yet in a world full of fast moving technology, I think its even more special than it used to be.
Thanks for sharing,

thanks for stopping by jen. you're so right. haven't seen your work before just been over and done a bit of stalking :) xbel
+1 # Eleise 2014-03-25 11:55
That is a beautiful project! What a lovely thing to do whilst your partner was away. Last year we started a family memory jar where we write down and store cool things we do together! Life is about the memories!
+1 # Toni 2014-03-25 13:50
Love this idea Natalie! It can be used for so many different things too. I'll have to think of an excuse to make one.
+1 # Sheridan 2014-03-25 14:58
This is such a great idea! They do still need to stay manly, but guys love these sorts of things too!!!
+1 # Bake Play Smile 2014-03-25 16:54
This is such a wonderful idea! You always have the greatest ideas - I just love them!
0 # Mums Take Five 2014-03-25 21:19
Quoting Bake Play Smile:
This is such a wonderful idea! You always have the greatest ideas - I just love them!

Thank you Lucy :) you have some pretty awesome ideas too
+1 # TrishMLDB 2014-03-25 22:09
Thank you for this idea , I can really use this with my husband and sons when I have to be away for Radiotherapy.
+1 # EssentiallyJess 2014-03-26 14:39
Oh what a lovely idea!! And a great keepsake for a very long time too, no doubt :)
+1 # Kylie Purtell 2014-03-26 15:27
Awesome! I absolutely love this idea and it is so something that I would love to do. I think I might have to start this as a project for my Mum's birthday this year and get all of my brothers and sisters to contribute notes. #teamIBOT
+1 # Mandy 2014-03-29 11:12
Wow!! What an amazing idea! Well done you!! I'm sure he will appreciate you and think about you every day. These are bound to make his separation from you a little bit more bearable x
+1 # Sam Stone @ ALoV 2014-03-29 15:40
What a beautiful idea.
0 # Sonia LifeLoveHiccup 2014-03-31 22:20
This is seriously one of the sweetest things I have ever seen. Thanks for linking up with Bron and I for the Weekend Rewind x